The 33 shares on Facebook for my last post means it was controversial. And that’s the point. Sometimes we say things other people don’t want to hear. I was really cranky yesterday after twisting my knee and seeing a mommy blogger apologize for her voice which has helped so many people, so I’m sure the message was rough around the edges. The point was that natural parents who present their beliefs to the world- that breast is best, that corporal punishment is harmful, and other things- should continue to present this helpful information without being concerned with avoiding hurting feelings. If I do something wrong, I feel bad for it. I understand the mechanism of hurt feelings. I also understand compassion and empathy and not wanting other moms to hurt. Yes, we are all connected.
But they’ll get over it and maybe be better for it Hey, they were reading your blog in the first place- which means they were probably looking for that information that may have hurt their feelings. You can help remind them that we are all human. We all make mistakes. Then we learn from them.
Bottom line: psychologists wouldn’t be so plentiful and successful if we were not a society trained in avoiding emotion. Avoiding emotion does not get my vote for best idea ever. So speak, sisters.
P.S. I’ll take the opportunity here to point out that I am on my THIRD child, have certainly not lived up to my original AP intentions, and still believe strongly in the principles that have guided the formation of those ideals. Still- superior, bully, whatever you want to call it- I am not that.